Five Means of Quelling your Anger according to the Sunnah
Abu Hurairah, radi Allahu ‘anhu, reported that a man said to the Prophet, sall Allahu ‘alayhi wa sallam:
“Advise me!” The Prophet said, “Do not become angry and furious.” The man asked (the same) again and again, and the Prophet said in each case, “Do not become angry and furious.” [Bukhari]
Five ways to control your anger
1. Saying Audhu billahi min ash-Shaytan ar-Rajeem.
The Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam said in an agreed upon hadith when he saw someone get angry, “Indeed I know a phrase that had that person said it, that feeling would have gone away.”
2. Changing your position – if standing, then sit. If sitting, then lie down.
The Prophet sal Allahu alayhi wa sallam said in Abu Dawud, “If one of you becomes angry and he is standing up, then let him sit down. And if it does not go away, then lie down.”
3. Making wudu (since Shaytan is from fire).
The Prophet said, “Anger comes from Shaitan, and the Shaitan was created from fire. And indeed fire is put out from water, so when one of you gets angry, let him make wudu.”
4. Be quiet/avoid speaking in that moment.
The Prophet said in an authentic hadith narrated by Ahmad, “If you become angry, be quiet. If you become angry, be quiet. If you become angry, be quiet.”
5. Remember that quelling rage results in jannah.
The Prophet said, “Don’t be angry, and you will have jannah.” He also said, “Whoever holds back his anger when he’s capable of acting upon it, then on the day of judgment, Allah will call him out in front of all of creation and let him have his pick of hur al-ayn.” Also, “The one who is strong is not the one who is the best wrestler, but the one who controls his anger when he is angry.”
For more on the first hadith in this post, click here.
(from my Sacred Scrolls notes)
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